What questions did you ask yourself today?
Chances are, very few of them. Tony Robbins, famous self-help guru, claims that the quality of questions you ask yourself on a daily basis determines the overall quality of your life.
The first time I heard this I thought it was a bit of an exaggeration. Now, more than 10 years later, I can surely say that this gem is worth much more than what you would pay for dozens of self-help books.
Actually, you can stop reading this article right now and ponder the above affirmation – that’s how valuable it is. However, we will go into more depth ob this in this article.
Let us face the facts – most people go through life without asking too many questions. That is because that is how we were raised by our parents, by our educational system and the whole society doesn’t encourage an open mind, generally speaking. Why? Because questions are trouble-makers. Questions trouble the still waters of conformity and inertia in which most people tend to take refuge in face of uncertainty and fear.
You, however, are different. You are here, reading this, because you are looking for a better life. You are looking for making a career for yourself which makes you proud. You probably want to work with creative individuals, investing your efforts into a project which excites you and hopefully makes the world a better place to live in.
If this is true, then asking more questions should definitely become a priority for you. Not just any questions, mind you, but proactive questions. Questions such as “How can I improve this activity that I am doing daily?”. Questions such as “How can I feel better and inspire those around me to feel better as well?”. Questions such as “How can I become a better team-player and maybe even a more effective and trustworthy leader?”.
Why is it that questions are so productive? It is a simple matter of focus – where your attention goes, that is where your energy flows. It has nothing to do with spirituality, self-help, psychology or even physics – it is just a matter of fact. If you ask productive questions and persist enough with them then you will find empowering answers which, if applied to your life consistently, can dramatically alter your life for the better.
Yet there is a question to trump them all – the question of all questions which is puzzling for anyone asking it. It is a question which gives changing answers every time you ask it – yet it is so necessary to our everyday life. Most people fear asking this question because it involves such a huge level of uncertainty, discomfort and mystery – yet fewer questions are more productive that this one.
So what is this question, you might ask? Well, here it is…
The question is “Why am I doing what I am doing?”.
It is very simple, straightforward and neutral – yet it pierces through any lies, beliefs and stories we might have built for ourselves.
The person who wishes to build a successful career and a life that he (or she) is proud of will, sooner or later, have to face this question in a serious manner.
The most important thing to keep in mind is that everyone has their own reasons for doing various things – even if they are not conscious about them. Rest assured, if they would not have solid reasons for acting they would not do so. What bears repeating is this – whether or not they are conscious of their motives, people do things because of various reasons.
If you are reading this, I assume that you want to live a life of your own, forged by your own will and creativity. Otherwise, there are millions of people who mistake their dreams for the dreams of their parents, their teachers or society. Individuality is not an easy thing to accomplish as it implies digging through numerous layers of psychological and emotional conditioning.
If you want to lead a conscious and satisfying life, asking “Why am I doing what I am doing?” is the most important question you can ask yourself. This will help you avoid doing things for the “wrong reasons” (whatever “wrong” might mean to you), as well as providing a solid motivation and determination which you will need to draw upon especially during hard times.
Asking this question will also make you less vulnerable to manipulation from authority figures, peers, friends, family, advertising and so on. It will help you become more independent and insightful as well as thoughtful, which not only helps you with better understanding yourself but it will pay huge dividends with understanding other people as well (which is a highly valued leadership trait).
The easiest way to tackle this question is by using a pen and paper. Take some time for yourself – around 10-30 minutes on any day in which you are feeling more reflective or want to ponder on some important questions. Write “Why am I doing what am I doing?” on the top of the page and then just write without thinking. The rational mind can quickly become an obstacle in exploring your subconscious mind, which is why it is important to just write without inhibitions and reflect only afterwards. That is how you discover some golden nuggets.
This question can be applied to work, to your leisure activities and to anything important from your life, really. Once you gather the courage to do this practice more often you will notice huge improvements in your personal awareness and understanding of your motivations.
Do you want further help in creating the career of your dreams? If so, Tribehired is here for you – we can help you create that career.