As a student and freelancer, I personally gain some experience by working in various types of jobs like the F&B industry, IT and sales, supervising, event organizing, minor managerial positions and many more that I can’t even remember to list them out right here.
To put it simply, I am writing to share my observations and offer a little simple advice based on my observations for young Malaysians or any international audience who are reading this.
Why? Because every problem starts with a reason, and many of it piles up to become a vicious circle that we are usually unaware of and therefore we struggle to live up to our own expectations. In order to come up with solutions, we need to identify the reasons behind the problems young people face in today’s modern competitive labor market.
1) You use “Chill Lah Weh” too much (Attitude)
A phrase heard too many f… I mean times when young people encounter problems or difficult situations in their early life, especially when the enviroment they surround themselves with nurtures this particular behavior as well.
Young people nowadays are born into many advantages than ever compared to the previous generations with no world wars, various technological advantages and the choice of selecting our pathway to success. We basically could be anything with the right amount of hardwork and dedication to our goals! Seriously!
I personally saw a colleague of mine who was too “chill” and got himself fired by our superiors in front of my eyes because they were really annoyed of his lack of seriousness at work. It was just a basic sales job!
I have seen so many young people who has the capability to get things done, but their attitude comes in their way and it hurts their social circle and credibility. For example, being too arrogant because they have extraordinary results for their examinations, looking down on their poor friends, being lazy because they are well-fed at home and disrespecting others at work.
To evaluate this point further, young people like us, that will one day be the future of the country, should now take things too lightly especially when it comes to work and our studies. If young people wants to be taken seriously in the work place, we should put in extra effort in all the things that matters to prove that we are a force to be reckon with! Its okay to “chill” when you are hanging out with friends, but when it comes to work, projects and even relationships, we will show them our true capabilities!
2) You Never Worked Part Time , Ever (lifestyle)
Kudos for the ones who do, but for the ones who usually who don’t, who never took on a part time job of any kind by the age of 20 should really consider doing so.
You could argue that your parents own a business that is ready for you to inherit someday, or you are still studying and you need focus, or I had a friend who proudly told me he had stock investment returns to depend on, why stress lah?
Let me get this straight, lets just assume your parents are smart people and if you never worked part time just because you are lazy, and you never need to just because you have shares they gave you, and there’s no need to work. You think they’d pass the business to you? No wonder there is a saying of family businesses usually wont last more than 3 generations! (Only 15% of them barely made it to be exact)
Whoever your parents are, they knew the price of success, its along the lines of hardwork with the right mindset, network and direction. We should follow their success, or any mentors you could find or relate to, and take baby steps towards success, all we need here is action!
For the students, you should work part time when you are having your semester breaks, you can earn extra pocket money for yourself, network yourself among the ambitious young lads who went out to work like you, and even know big shots out there who are looking out for their apprentice!
When you are young, it is the time to work hard and enjoy the difficult process on the pathway to success, then you can enjoy the fruits of your hardwork, and thank your young self for it.
When you are trying to get a job someday when you graduate, you will have enough experience in the workplace to understand what you will be dealing with!
We should be grateful that it is still not too hard to get a job nowadays, so take the chance to learn more and network more to your advantage and leverage it! The money matters, but the experience you earn is far more precious!
3)You Never Apologize, Ever (Social)
Oh man, I’ve seen it too many times that I lost count on how many friendships, relationships and family relations broken just because young people like us are too reluctant and egoistic to admit your faults and say that you are sorry. However many counter argues with this, “Why should I? Why don’t they apologize instead?”
You are right, I felt that too when I argued with my parents, and I learnt alot from them by getting beaten down all the time in arguements and logical reasonings. (They are highly educated). It was really hard for me, and after years of experiences with my parents, with alot of hateful and sorrowful moments, I realized its crucial for me to realize that I am wrong at times and it is easier to apologize than argue about small things that does not matter that much! We have to learn how to let it go!
No one denies that it can be hard to apologize. It’s not easy to admit we were wrong. However, a sincere apology is incredibly powerful, especially when a few key ideas are kept in mind.
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”
If you never apologized, why should others do? Magically realize that they should throw their ego off to apologize to you? (You won’t do it why should they?)
If you had a fight with your friends or rivals, and you are aware that they won’t apologize due to egoistic issues, maybe you should just say sorry to them as a counter strategy (Trust me it works, because they love people who apologize to them, it makes them feel strong [they think]) *psst but they look like a total petty idiot filled with ego. (Keep in mind to make this stratergy work, you need to be self-actualized and mature enough to take in the emotional impact of losing)
My point is, if you think that person who never apologize is a horrible person and you really think you are right by facts and arguments, that he uses straw man, red herring bla bla (i know..i know.. You are right man, Geezus) You should still consider apologizing for being too harsh on them or just being a dique (heh). At the end of the day, its not about showing that you are a bigger man/woman (lol) yourself and you are actually a nice person as well.
I’m not saying you should always apologize and you have the right to stand your ground and defend your views, but do remember that it is important to back down sometimes when the situation is getting too hot!
To sum it up briefly, if you want to get ahead of the competition and look into getting hired to local or multinational company, we should start by evaluating the barrier that stops us from succeeding at the first place, ourselves. Everything starts from within, from our very own hands, and our own will power!
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